iStock_000002143196MediumWe’ve known each other since we were four years old.

She can tell you every single memory of our lives; what we were wearing, who was there, what was said and the craziness that ensued.

She probably knows me the best, as she as known me the longest. But, in reality, she probably knows me the best because she has witnessed my deepest lows and stood by me through finding myself again.

She is my childhood friend who has seen me through my darkest of times, literally helping me bathe and go to the bathroom while in a body cast.

She is my faithful friend as she let me go when I chose to go to college out of state.

She is my adventurous friend who moved to the big city with me after college.

She is my humble and forgiving friend as we survived a terrible falling out.

She is my family as we have survived tragedy together.

She is my fellow warrior in fighting for her family and understanding the difficulties of infertility.

We’ve survived distance of all kinds to only come back together because of our own individual struggles.

The unspoken shame. The impossible decisions. The heart stealing and soul crushing losses. The life long costs of IVF.

Only to strengthen this lifelong friendship.

And, soon we will enter another chapter of our friendship when she becomes a mother for the first time in early June. When she asked me to be in the delivery room to coach her, along with her husband, there were only tears of joy as I realized I would be there for that magical moment to see one of our chosen children take her first breath.

Kelly and I at about 6 years oldIt has been an honor to walk beside her through this journey of life. I am immensely thankful for our bumpy path as it has prepared us for the brutal survival of our own battles with infertility. And it is truly with a full heart that I look forward to this next chapter of seeing her become a loving, and grateful, mother.

I guess there really is only one thing to say to her.

Thank you… for being a true witness of me, for always seeing, knowing and loving me.

And, thank you for allowing me to be along for your ever upward.

16 thoughts on “My True Witness of 30 Years

  1. I can so relate to this post Justine. I too have had a lifelong friendship (42 years actually) with a woman that is like a sister to me. True friendship can stand the test of time, distance and hardest of trials if the relationship means that much to you. The experience you will have in the delivery room with her will be nothing short of amazing!!! Oxoxo

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    1. Thank you! It really is an amazing friendship!


  2. It sounds like an absolutely beautiful friendship.


    1. What I am learning, the older I get, is how much people come in and out of our lives. I am truly blessed to have Kelly always. Thank you for the read and comment!


  3. junebugmo1949 says:

    So touching, I can’t say that I have a friend like that. You are so blessed, as is she!


  4. candidkay says:

    How wonderful you have each other! Here are two ladies you might be someday:):


    1. Oh my gosh, I love that! Thank you!


  5. Karen Lanser says:

    Such a beautiful testament to your friendship Justine! I, too, am just composing a “Better Because of You …” posting for a very dear friend of mine. It seems so vital to add these ‘light’ moments to the virtual world we are living in … the media is so focused upon sensationalizing the dark instead. Warmest smiles, Karen


    1. Thank you Karen! You are so right, we need to make sure we provide space to the light too!


  6. Beloved says:

    What a beautiful testament. I wish I had a friend like that. What a treasure.


    1. Thank you! I am so grateful for her.


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