My latest for HuffPost Parents. It is some of my most important writing and is part of something I had hoped to use in my TEDx talk. But sharing it here felt right and I simply could not sit on it any longer.


I Will Never Birth a Child, But I’m Still a Parent

It is not uncommon that an interview with Kim Cattrall be shared on multiple media outlets. However, it is uncommon when you consider one of the topics she discussed: how she parents even though she does not have her own children.

Across social media her quotes ignited comments of both major support and criticism. As an advocate for breaking the silence of infertility, pregnancy loss and recovery I was excited and as a writer, I have my own words.


I always knew my journey to parenthood would not be traditional, and yet I never could have imagined the unexpected extraordinary life that has been born of my journey.

I met Michelle on a surrogacy website. My husband and I were beginning the journey to make our family through gestational surrogacy. Michelle was a mother of two children and a first time surrogate. We did In vitro fertilization (IVF), putting both of our bodies through synthetic hormonal hell, transferred a total of three embryos, lost our three babies and our dreams to make our family ended.

Who are we if we are not parents? What is our legacy if no one carries on our family name, our gorgeous red hair, vivacious laugh and vibrant, passionate personalities?

Click here to read the whole piece.

8 thoughts on “Birthing a Rare Kind of Parenthood

  1. Thanks for sharing. Had no clue Kim Catrell and her husband went through this.

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    1. Thank you for reading and commenting!

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  2. This is beautiful, Justine. Maybe even your best piece so far. Your brave is huge and you are tough as nails.

    I’m so sorry that the cesspool that humanity is was on full display in the comments section. What ever happened to “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything?” I took my own advice and didn’t engage them, but boy was it hard.


    1. Letting the cesspool roll…

      I love, love, LOVE my TED talk and honestly it is just has honored here too. Thank you!


  3. Justine this was beautiful! Thank you for sharing your heart 🙂


    1. Melissa, Thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave this kind comment! Words cannot express how much I appreciate it!


  4. anotherforty says:

    So are you saving your TED talk for another try? If not , I know we’d all love to see it! 🙂


    1. You know what you just gave me an idea… Stay tuned, I promise an update in less than 2 weeks ;). J


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