I’ve been attacked for my infertility journey.

I’ve been misunderstood.

I’ve been judged.

I’ve been pitied.

I’ve been ignored.

I’ve also been loved, listened to and supported through it and still thereafter. 

National Infertility Awareness Week is April 24th-30th and I want to make sure we all feel seen and heard this year.

No matter where you are in the infertility journey. No matter what your ending was from it. No matter how your family has been defined. Kids. No kids. Adoption. Surrogacy. Donor. Successful treatments. Unsuccessful treatments. Any level of treatments. Any diagnosis. Any length of time. Longing grandparents or aunts and uncles. Parents of loss. Longing parents.

Whatever your story is, was and may be through the infertility journey; our voices are stronger together, we are fellow warriors.

What people say or think about infertility, or their lack of understanding or acknowledgement, does not define us or our happiness.

We define it.

Our journey to wholeness is our ever upward.

#morethan1in8 (1)There are still millions of people hiding their infertility battle in shamed silence.  Change starts with us.  Let’s show the world what more than 1 in 8 really looks like.

Together we can open the doors to a much needed, and much bigger and healthier conversation that brings us healing, growth, love and happiness – in forms that are uniquely you.

Let’s see your ever upward, even if it’s still in progress, and stand together.

For ourselves. For our families. And for those who are fighting alone.

Over the next few weeks I would love to hear from  you, and especially see you!

We are #MoreThan1in8. I am thriving after infertility by shining my light through the darkness of the journey for others. I am thriving through self-care and love because my work, my life, honors my babies.

We are #MoreThan1in8.
I am thriving after infertility by shining my light through the darkness of the journey for others, giving permission to define our own happy ending. I am thriving through self-care and love because in my work, my life, I honor my babies.

Let’s make the world hear our shattered silence and see our faces; the voices and the faces of the battle of infertility and it’s survivors.

Send me a picture of you (and your spouse or family) via email or by posting on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. Make sure to tag me and/or Ever Upward and use #MoreThan1in8. I’d love to hear how you are surviving and thriving through and after infertility. What makes you more than 1 in 8?

Throughout the week of April 24-30th I will have a surprise that tells all of our stories using our pictures.

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14 thoughts on “We Are More Than 1 in 8

  1. Pamela says:

    Thank you, Justine, for providing a platform to share our full, whole selves. Look forward to following your inspired initiative!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Pam! I appreciate the support so much!!!


  2. This is great. I’ve shared it with my readers.


    1. Thank you so much Lisa!!!


  3. Shana says:

    I’m interested to see where this goes and will be following along because, frankly, We haven’t figured out how to thrive despite our childlessness. The pain just seems to get worse (5 1/2 years since we started treatment and 1 1/2 years since our last treatment) and we are in deep despair.


    1. Shana,

      Thank you for reading and commenting. I hope you find my work helpful in your journey through this darkness. You can thrive, I promise. I can, however, also promise it takes times and some hard work. Thank you again! Justine


  4. Cathy B says:

    Thank you for having an awareness week. Oct 2012 was the end for me and it still burns sometimes, especially when people think I should be “over it”. And the unempathetic comments such as, well, “at least” you have this or that, or whatever. Or worse, “aren’t you glad that you didn’t have kids now that you’re getting a divorce?” (No, it makes it that much more painful because I’m too old now.) And any negative thoughts or feelings I express means that I’m not “over it”, or that “I’m bitter” and it makes everyone uncomfortable. And another gem, well, at least you know it’s not you, it’s him. You can still have a baby. That’s not the point. I was in a committed relationship with this man, my HUSBAND, and I wanted to have HIS child. We were infertile TOGETHER. I have 4 sisters. All mothers. Family gatherings are tough. It is not a safe place for me, because I’M the one who has to adjust.


    1. Cathy, You’re welcome! Thank you for reading and commenting. I hope you participate in the project. Oh that damn silver lining of “at least…” the worst. Wish everyone would educate themselves on the difference between empathy and sympathy! Thank you again for your support, I hope you find my work helpful! Justine

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  5. Lesley Pyne says:

    Thanks for doing this Justine, what a great idea.
    I’ve added our photo to social media & will share it with my readers, Not sure I included how we are surviving & thriving so here goes:
    I am thriving by supporting others to re-write their story and define their own happy ending. i am committed to my own personal growth. We know that being childlessness does not define us, we are more than that and we are grateful for the many opportunities that we have to do what we love.


    1. Lesley, So happy you shared your voice and face to #MoreThan1in8. And thank you for helping me promote it!!!! So proud to have you as a fellow warrior by my side in this journey!! Justine


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