Showing support for my friend Maya and her husband Noah and their new film One More Shot. Please consider watching the trailer and financially backing this important film. Together we can educate more people about what it really takes to make a family today. And, hopefully I can figure out how to get out to …

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Amy Klein‘s post You’ve Done Everything You Can for the New York Times was the first spark I needed to write something about our enoughs. Our everythings. Then I wrote Our Infertility Rap Sheets, even though I was scared to death of putting it out there. But, the feedback I received was the second spark I …

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This week was National Infertility Awareness Week and it seems I needed the whole week to allow the theme of Resolve to Know More to really sink into my soul so my message could be clear. Especially considering that everything about infertility seems to be anything but clear, both to the general public for the most part …

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I significant part of me cringes as I put the word should in the title of this post. As a therapist who works some using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) I have attempted to erase should from my vocabulary. I also work with my clients to do the same. As some CBT therapists say, “Don’t should all over yourself!” Should …

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A picture mail text of Lyla’s drawing of us. Snail mail of Joycelyn’s drawing of the dogs. A picture mail text of Lane with his “Justine socks” on. A voice mail from the boys begging us to come play Just Dance. My favorite picture of the boys cuddling with the three dogs watching cartoons. A …

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Being a mental health therapist means I have the personality, training and education for empathy. I live every minute of my life, personally and professionally, having almost too much empathy a lot of the time. The older I get the more I wish I had been warned of this hazard of my field in graduate …

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